From the Editor's keyboard By Lynda Duffy email@example.com Musings, thoughts and ideas from Lynda Duffy, editor of Williams/Grand Canyon News.
Monday, June 8, 2009
Could you tell? Would you tell?
Lynda Duffy Former Editor
I've had a great life. I've truly been blessed. But somehow, I continue to be haunted by the "what ifs?" One bad decision could take my great life away. One what if that has stuck in my mind since childhood is what would I do if I knew something horrible about someone that was affecting someone else in my life. I've stood by friends when the what if happened to them. Some close have told. Others have not. The horrible what if has happened ... this time ... to me.
I've lived a sheltered life, so I didn't think too much of the what if I knew something horrible was going on with someone close. However, still, more than a few times, I've struggled with that what if I knew? Could I tell? Would I tell?
The horrific, true, what if, happened to me several weeks ago. At first, I attempted to act indifferent. After all, this what if has actually happened before. The other times I ignored it. It just happened again. This time I will not ignore it.
Now, the dilemma begins.
I can't sleep. I can't eat. I investigated for 48 hours. I am horrified and extremely stunned, when I learn that the actual what if has actually happened. The tawdry details follow. I confirm all. Then the struggle begins.
If I tell anyone what has happened, and is still happening, will it help? I just don't know.
After several more days of hell, I make a decision.
The what if is now known.
A minimum of 20 people close to me have been affected, and not in a positive manner.
Everyone is asking if I am sure. I am.
At least 20 of us are asking - why, how? Why, how? Repeatedly.
I knew when I decided to make this public, the results would not be positive.
You know what?
I would do it again.
Because it is the right thing to do.
My reputation as a good, true person has always been so valuable to me. I want everyone to know that I am on the up and up. Even if others associated with me are not.
Please remember this - you cannot choose your parents, cousins, siblings or children. The only people you can choose are your friends, and the most important person you will ever select is your spouse. Life is too short. Make good, strong, moral decisions. Lead by example. Anything else is unacceptable.
Posted: Saturday, June 13, 2009
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Hard as it was to come to your decision--good for you; I am a former small town newspaper editor (cutbacks or still would be) that was forced to make many heart-wrenching decisions. Making them is easy compared to living with them later. I applaud your courage and ethical code. We all need these to live by. In the end, our maker is who we stand eye to eye with. Take care.